Every parent certainly wants to have children who are obedient and kind. No wonder if from an early age parents have taught good values to their children.
However, sometimes parents are unable to deal with their disputing or dissident children. Even parents are often confused about how to deal with rebellious children.
But don’t be confused, moms, the following 10 things can be a reference on how to educate children not to become dissidents.
Improve communication with children
Communication that is not smooth with children will make it difficult for parents to convey their intentions to children. Because they do not know how to communicate properly, parents will find it difficult to make children understand what they want to say, so the child will argue.
Listen to the child
Some parents are reluctant to take the time to listen to children’s aspirations because they think the child does not have much experience. This attitude will not help in developing a child’s character. This attitude will actually make children feel not considered and not valued.
Don’t spoil the child too much
Pampering children by fulfilling all their desires will make children not understand how to struggle to get something. This will make him rebel when his parents cannot grant what he asks for.
Teach children to be independent
More independent children will find it easy to convey their feelings and desires appropriately so there is no need to argue whenever parents advise or tell them to do something.
When a child denies what you say, don’t give in just to avoid debate. If you give in, the child will learn that he can avoid the command by being disobedient or defiant. And on another occasion, he will repeat it again.
Take care of emotions
Facing a dissident child, it often saps emotions. But try to remain calm. Do not let your emotions explode especially if you do physical violence.
Tell the child the consequences if they disobey
To make a child stop or learn that arguing is not a good deed, parents must introduce the child with the consequences of his actions. Tell the child if he doesn’t follow the rules, the consequence is that he will lose time to do what he likes. For example, if the child does not want to take a shower, the consequence is that he will lose playing time for one day. Don’t forget to discuss this form of consequence with the child, so he understands.
When you have determined the consequences than be consistent. Perform the agreed-upon consequences every time the child is not obedient. Don’t give up when the child has started crying and sulking, then you cancel the consequences. Remember, teaching consequences is very important for the formation of a child’s character, so that he knows what it means to be responsible and what obligations he must fulfill.
Find out the child’s will
Maybe all the ways you have done but the child is still defiant. In cases like this, it’s a good idea to try to find out what your child really wants. It could be that he has his own mind but doesn’t know how to express it. Ask the reason why he repeatedly rebels, and what he thinks he should do. After successfully knowing it, you will find it easier to find a solution so that he does not disobey.
Give more attention
There are times when a child defies because he wants attention from his parents. When parents can only tell and rule but never pay attention to the child, he will look for any means to get that attention. If by denying it he gets it, then that’s the thing he will often do.